"Don’t Criticize, Condemn, or Complain"
The phrase "Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain" comes from Dale Carnegie's classic self-help book How to Win Friends and Influence People. It’s a principle for improving relationships and fostering positivity. Here’s a breakdown of what it means and why it’s important:
1. Don’t Criticize
- Criticism involves pointing out faults in others, often in a way that makes them defensive.
- Harsh criticism rarely leads to positive change; instead, it breeds resentment.
- Example: Instead of saying, "Your work is sloppy," try constructive feedback like, "Let’s see how we can improve this together."
2. Don’t Condemn
- Condemnation is stronger than criticism—it implies judgment and moral disapproval.
- It makes people feel attacked and less likely to cooperate.
- Example: Instead of saying, "You’re so irresponsible!" try understanding their perspective first.
3. Don’t Complain
- Complaining focuses on problems without offering solutions, spreading negativity.
- Constant complaining drains energy and pushes people away.
- Example: Instead of grumbling, "This always happens!" try, "What can we do to fix this?"
Why Follow This Rule?
- People respond better to kindness and encouragement than to negativity.
- Criticism often backfires—it hurts pride and triggers resistance.
- Positive communication builds trust and cooperation.
Alternative Approach:
Instead of criticizing, try:
- ✅ Giving constructive feedback (focus on improvement, not blame).
- ✅ Showing empathy (understand why someone acted a certain way).
- ✅ Leading by example (inspire change rather than demand it).
This principle isn’t about ignoring problems—it’s about addressing them in a way that preserves dignity and motivates positive action.
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"แុំแិះแแ់ แុំแេแแ្แแេแ แฌแុំแแข៊ូแแាំ"
แ្แា "แុំแិះแแ់ แុំแេแแ្แแេแ แฌแុំแแข៊ូแแាំ" แแแីแៀแแៅแ៏แ្แីแ្แាแแแแ់ Dale Carnegie แែแแាแแ្แោះแា How to Win Friends and Influence People។ แាแាแោแแាแแ៍แើแ្แីแែแแ្แขแំแាแ់แំแแ แិแแំแុแแขាแแ្แแ៍แិแ្แแាแ។ แាแแ្แោแแេះแាแាแแแ្แแ់แแ្แขិแ៖
แก. แុំแិះแแ់ (Don’t Criticize)
- แាแแិះแแ់แឺแាแแ แ្แขុแแแ្แ ាแแแ់แข្แแแแៃ แែแแ្แើแฒ្แแួแแេแាแแขាแแ្แแ៍แាแ្แូแแិះแแ់។
- แាแแិះแแ់แោแแ្แាแแុแแ្แិแាแแ្แើแฒ្แแแុแ្แแขាแ แแแ ិแ្แ แฌแแ់แ្แាំ។
- แงแាแ แแ៍៖ แំแួแแាแ្แแា "แាแแាแแแแ់แข្แแแាแแ ំแុแ แ្แះแាแแ ្แើแ!" แขាแ แិแាแแា "แើแើแแขាแ แែแแ្แขแាแ៉ាแแូแ แ្แេแ ?"
แข. แុំแេแแ្แแេแ (Don’t Condemn)
- แាแแេแแ្แแេแ แឺแ្แแ់แាแแាแแិះแแ់ แាแแ្แ េแแขាแแ្แแ៍แាแข្แแแាแข្แแแិแិแ ្แ័แ។
- แាแ្แើแฒ្แแข្แแแแៃแាแแขាแแ្แแ៍แាแ្แូแแាแแុแ แ ើแแួแแេแឹแแិแแ แ់แแ แាแ។
- แงแាแ แแ៍៖ แំแួแแាแ្แแា "แข្แแแិแแាแ្แាแแាแแแแ ិแ្แแុแแាแ់แេ!" แขាแ แួแแា "แ េแុแข្แីแាแแាแាแើแแกើแแូแ ្แេះ?"
แฃ. แុំแแข៊ូแแាំ (Don’t Complain)
- แាแแแข៊ូแแាំแឺแាแាแแិแាแแីแแ្แ ាแោแแ្แាแแំแោះแ្แាแ แែแแ្แើแฒ្แแแិแាแាแแขแិแ្แแាแ។
- แាแ្แើแฒ្แแข្แแแแៃแុแแ្แាแ់ แិแแขแ់แแ្แាំแ។
- แงแាแ แแ៍៖ แំแួแแាแ្แแា "แាแขាแ្แแ់แាแ់ แែแแែแួแแแ្แ ាแូแ ្แេះ!" แขាแ แិแាแแា "แើแើแแขាแ แោះแ្แាแแាแោแแិแីแា?"
แ េแុแข្แីแ្แូแแขแុแแ្แแោแแាแแ៍แេះ?
- แแុแ្แแាแแ្แแិแแ្แแ្แขแាแួแแាแแើแแឹแแ ិแ្แ แាแាแแាแแិះแแ់។
- แាแแិះแแ់แขាแ แ្แើแฒ្แแข្แแแแៃแាแ់แែแแ់ แិแแិแแ แ់แ្แាแ់แ្แូแ។
- แាแแ្แើแាแ្แแុแាแแាแแៅแขាแ แแាแแំแុแแ ិแ្แ แិแแแ แាแแាแแាแ។
แិแីแំแួแ៖
แំแួแแขំแើแិះแแ់ แขាแ ៖
- ✅ แ្แแ់แแិแោแแ់แោแแ្แោះ (แ្แោแแើแាแแែแแ្แข แាแាแแិះแแ់)
- ✅ แแ់แឹแแขាแแ្แแ៍แข្แแแแៃ (แាแแួแแីแូแแ េแុ)
- ✅ แឹแแាំแោแแงแាแ แแ៍ (แแ្แ ាแแីแแៀแแ្แើแាแាแแแ្แំ)
แោแแាแแ៍แេះแិแแែแแាแិแแขាแ แិแាแแីแแ្แ ាแេ แឺแ្แាแ់แែแិแីแិแាแแោแแួแแแ แើแ្แីแแ្แាแេแ แ្แីแ្แៃแ្แូแ แិแแើแแឹแแ ិแ្แแข្แแแแៃ។
แើแข្แแแ แ់แើแแงแាแ แแ៍แាแ់แ្แែแแីแแៀแแขแុแแ្แแៅแ្แុแแីแិแแ្แแ ាំแ្แៃแេ?